Self-Potraits that are formed early in life, then carried and implemented into adulthood without examination, create patterns of low self-esteem and poor image. but while you may have been stuck for decades, you can get unstuck.
Getting unstuck is a process of looking at previously formed belief patters that motivate adult behavior. growing to the next step, becoming a changeweaver, is a three-step process:
1. Acknowledge the areas in which you are stuck.
2. believe that you can change.
3. Honor the power of your own spirituality.
Achieving success in each stage of your life requires growth steps that are sequential and progressive.
It is easy to see that walking preceeds running. It is more difficult to understand that a healthy relationship with yourself precedes a rewarding relationship with another person.
But if beliefs formed inearlier years remain unexamined and fixed, they affect adult behavior, self-image and self worth. a misstep occurs, keeping you in disharmony with your own expectations and those of your significant others. the result can be low self-esteem, destructive behaviors and dysfunctional relationships.
Let's look at the following statements that may help to determine the level of stuckness that is blocking your growth.
If you believe...
Adults in authoritative positions must know what is roght in their area of expertise (the doctor always prescribes the best treatment)...
You need your parents' approval in order to feel you're doing the right thing...
Relationships with family members are always the most important, no matter what...
then you may be holding some basic assumptions that were formed in your childhood and never re- examined.
If you believe...
You must be pretty--or atleast attractive--to be well-liked...
You must excel at some sport in order to be friends with the right group of people...
Teachers, supervisors and bosses must be listened to and not challlenged...
Its is important to be good & not get in trouble...
You need the approval of your parents, spouse and/or friends in order to feel good about yourself ...
then you may be holding some basic assumptions that were formed in your preteen years and never re-examined.
If you believe...
Having a steady boyfriend or girlfirned shows that you have some value...
No one has problems o the degree that you have, and, consequently, no one understands you...
Your parents know nothing- they certainly do not know what is right for you...
You know you doi not want to be anything like your mother or your father, but you donot know what you want...
then you may be holding some basic assumptions that were formed in your adolescent years and never re-examined.
These statements were presented in a survey to 500 adults and we foound that many adults are holding beliefs formed in earlier years.
Will share you soon the five beliefs selected most frequently by the adults.. :) HAPPY READING.. :)
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